Tuesday, September 2, 2008


Friend and friendship are two words which is the origin of every relationship. Friend is one whose presence is enjoyed and the relation between two friends is called friendship. Had the relation, friendship, was not developed the world would not have developed to this stage.

Many fables related to friendship are there which are read as stories. In such fable one friend sacrifices for the other. Here is one-

In one race, nine contestants, all physically or mentally disabled, assembled at the starting line for a 100-meter race. At the starting signal, they all started out, not exactly in a dash, but with a relish to run the race to finish and win. But one little boy stumbled on the tarmac, tumbled over a couple of times, and began to cry. The other eight heard the boy cry. They slowed down and looked back. And then they all turned around and went back, every one of them. One girl bent down and kissed him and said, “This will make it better.” Then all nine linked their arms together and walked together till they reached the finish line. Everyone in the stadium stood and clapped and the cheering went for several minutes. This presents and highlights the relationship other than the blood relationship.

But in today’s world, friendship is all like a business deal. Giving and taking counts here. The money spent by you for your friend and the money spent by your friend for you counts equal. This is the present state of friendship. Helping a friend is possible if and only if he/she has helped you in the time past.

A small alcohol party can dissolve the dispute among two friends but a common project work cannot. Two stick of shared ‘ganja’ is enough for being friends but two years of common classroom is not. The number of friends one can make depends upon the frequency of parties he can offer to the people around. One who spend less or insufficiently is soon discarded from the group.

Such group of friends can unite together and beat a teacher whom they do not like but the same group can not work together to defeat the problems in the community. They never shave a friend who is in police custody because of their common mistake but will certainly give him a dose of drug if he is striving for it.

Betrayal by friends is noticed frequently these days. Killing of own friend for the sake of money and power has become common. Dispute among friends for the lost goods because of disbelief is frequent.

Nobody is there to help others. Everyone is focused on their own personal happiness and achievement. Leave alone sharing materialistic thing, people do not even like sharing knowledge. No one is there, even to show the right path.

But we should always know- What matters in this life more than winning for ourselves is helping others win, even if it means slowing down. I would say that you do not have to slow down. Rather by helping others through the difficult areas, the feedback will make you go faster. Giving is always satisfying than taking. One should always think about what I gave than what I got. If you apply the same principal in friendship, we may be able to change our hearts as well as someone else’s. A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle.

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